9 SIGNS YOU ARE ACTUALLY A VERY DIFFICULT PERSON TO GET ALONG WITH, ACCORDING TO PSYCHOLOGY. PSYCHOLOGY CAN HELP US TO IDENTIFY CERTAIN BEHAVIOUR THAT MAKES US DIFFICULT PERSON TO GET ALONG WITH. IT’S NOT ALWAYS EASY TO SEE ALL THE TRAILS IN OURSELVES, BUT BEING AWARE OF THEM IS THE 1ST STEP TO IMPROVE SOCIAL INTERACTIONS. SELF AWARENESS IS THE CAPACITY TO RECOGNISE YOUR OWN FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOUR AND WORKING ON YOUR OWNSELF.
IN THIS ARTICLE , WE WILL EXPLORE 9 SUCH SIGNS THAT SUGGEST THAT YOU MIGHT BE A TOUGH PERSON. DON’T WORRY, WE ALL HAVE OUR QUIRKS- THE MAIN AIM HERE IS SELF AWARENESS AND GROWTH, NOT GUILT OR BLAME.
1. You don’t listen enough – The art of conversation is a two way street. It is moch about listening as it is about talking. Being a better listener is not hard, but it does require some self awareness and practice. When you are in conversation try to focus more on the other person and less on what you are going to say.
2. You are often critical : We all have options, and it’s completely normal to share them. However, there is a fine line between expressing an opinion and being only critical. Being overly critical can make people feel judged and devalucted. It can also make you a difficult person to be around. If you are always focusing on the negatives and looking for faults, it might be time to work on becoming more positive and supportive.
3. You are always late: Punctuality is more than just a sign of respect. According to studies, being consistently late can signal a lack of self control and consideration for others’ time. It can also create tension and frustration, making you a difficult person to deal with. So it’s always best to manage your time better. This could be as simple as setting reminders or allowing extra time for unexpected delays.
4. You struggle to apologize : Apologizing when you are wrong is a fundamental part of maintaining healthy relationships. Infact if you find it hard to say ” I am sorry” or often avoid taking responsibility for your actions, you might come off as a difficult person to get along with. All these trails can damage close relationships personally and professionally. Apologizing doesn’t make you weak or diminish your worth. It shows emotional maturity and respect for others. When you are wrong don’t shy away from admitting it and saying sorry.
5. You are frequently negative : We all have bad days where everything seems to go wrong. But, if you are constantly negative then you can drain not only yourself, your energy but also spread the same negativity in others. The best thing is to recognise it in yourself, it’s not too late to change. Try focusing on the positive aspects of your life and expressing gratitude to them. It won’t just make you easier to get along with – it might also boost your mood and overall happiness.
6. You have a hard time celebrating others’ success : It’s human nature to feel a twinge of envy when someone else achieves something we desire. But if you constantly struggle to genuinely celebrate others’ success, it will make you seem difficult and unsupportive. Joy should be shared and the most beautiful aspect of human relationships is cheering for each other. When we can’t do this, it not only hurts the people we care about, but it also robs us of our own happiness. If you find this trail in yourself, remember that someone else’s success does not diminish your worth and potential.
7. You are quick to judge : Sometimes we make judgements about people based on superficial details. Things like – how they dress, what they do for living and even how they talk and all these things create barriers between me and others. If you find yourself often making hasty judgments about people, try to have control over yourself as many times as we don’t have control over others. This small change can make a big difference in how you interact with others. You are a product of your circumstances and the product of your decisions. Everything is a reflection of our minds, so everything can be changed with our mind. The moment we change our mind our mindset changes and we stop judging people.
8. You are inflexible : If you are someone who is rigid in your ways and unwilling to compromise, you could be seen as a difficult person to get along with. Inflexibility can make others feel unheard or unimportant., as it can cause conflicts, prevent you from growing and learning from new experiences. So try to work on being more open and flexible. Remember that there are often multiple ways to approach a situation and what works best for you might not be what works best for everyone involved. Being flexible does not mean giving up your values and benefits; it means being willing to consider different perspectives and find common ground.
9. You lack empathy : Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. If you struggle to show empathy, it can make you seem cold, self centered and ultimately difficult to connect with. This can damage relationships and leave people feelings unsupported and misunderstood. If this is something you struggle with, don’t lose heart. Empathy is a skill that can be developed. Start by putting yourself in others’ shoes and acknowledge their feelings. It might take some practice, but the efforts will be worth it – for your relationships, and for your own emotional growth.
FINAL THOUGHT IS ALL ABOUT YOUR GROWTH. REMEMBER, IT’S NOT ABOUT PERFECTION, BUT THE PROGRESS. IT’S ABOUT CULTIVATING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AND EMPATHY TOWARDS OTHERS. IT’S ABOUT LISTING MORE AND JUDGING LESS, AND EMBRACING FLEXIBILITY.
AND THE MOST IMPORTANT , IS ABOUT TREATING OTHERS WITH RESPECT AND KINDNESS – BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY, HOW WE TREAT OTHERS IS THE REFLECTION OF WHO WE ARE.
KNOWING YOUR OWN DARKNESS IS THE BEST METHOD FOR DEALING WITH THE DARKNESS OF OTHER PEOPLE. SO TAKE THIS KNOWLEDGE AND USE IT AS A TOOL FOR UNDERSTANDING NOT ONLY OTHERS BUT ALSO YOURSELF. AFTER ALL, WE ALL WORK IN PROGRESS.
A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T REQUIRE PERFECTION, BUT, IT DOES REQUIRE GROWTH. IT IS ONLY THROUGH THIS MENTAL STATE YOU CAN MANIFEST MORE GOODNESS INTO YOUR LIFE- SO IF YOU CONTROL YOUR MIND, YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND BECOME THE ARCHITECT OF YOUR DESTINY.
